Fear. It's a core human emotion all of us have experienced. It's just part of how we are wired. For as long as we can remember, fear has served as a motivator, especially in sports. It typically sounds something like:
"I don't want to lose. I don't want to fail. I'm afraid to mess up. I'm afraid I won't play/will get pulled. I'm afraid I'm not good enough."
Fear as a Motivator
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Fear is utilized to avoid an outcome we don't want. Here's the thing: fear can actually be a motivator. BUT, it is a temporary motivator. Let's dive into why.
As humans, we are not meant to live in or remain in a state of fear. Fear is a core emotion intended to help us avoid danger. When fear becomes associated with something, for example, our sport or performance, we are now creating a negative and avoidant relationship with that thing. This is not the foundation for which we can create positive and lasting change or progress.
So, what do we do?
To remove an unhelpful tendency or pattern, you have to know what to replace it with. This is where we lead with love.
Think for a minute: If you had a best friend who was always putting you down, doubting you, or belittling you, would you want to do things for them? Would you want to go above and beyond for them?
Now think: Is this the relationship you are creating with your sport? Your team? Or even yourself?
This is where love as a means of acceptance and growth comes in. If you truly want to achieve sustainable progress and push yourself to that next level, both physically and mentally, stepping into self-acceptance and self-love is essential.
If you struggle with this, here are some tips:
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Start by noticing your thoughts. Is there a negative thought you could change to a neutral thought?
When you feel scared or intimidated, think, "What would I tell my favorite person if I knew they were feeling this way?"
When you have trouble supporting yourself in a positive way, try to lean into supporting someone else. Sometimes the best way to reset is by contributing and encouraging others.
Deeper connection: Research has consistently shown that practicing meditation or engaging in different types of prayer helps regulate the nervous system and creates a deep sense of connection, peace, and unconditional love.
When practiced consistently, even in small doses for a few minutes a day, this can rewire your brain for gratitude, love, resilience, and peace.
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